The One Where I Cry
I contemplated keeping this to myself (see Blogging Snarkiness) but decided to put it out there anyway because it is a part of my life and it is greatly affecting me at the moment.
Yesterday my hubby was benched at his job. This basically means he was removed from his project and has 30 days to find a new project within his company or he will be unemployed. He hadn’t done anything wrong but his team was reduced due to budget constraints (read: They fired the higher paid guys to likely replace them with more cheaper versions).
If I were feeling optimistic about his job prospects, I would say that he was bored at his position and hoping to move on anyway, that we both hope to move out of state and this is the catalyst to make that happen sooner, rather than later.
But I’m not feeling so optimistic. He’s already been job searching for the last six months. What is the likelihood that something will now magically come along in just 30 days? Things are more complicated than all of this but I’m the kind of person who needs a plan. And there is no plan. And, for the life of me, I can’t figure out what to do. I can’t figure out how to make the plan. And my husband? He doesn’t do plans. So I’m on my own here.
Yesterday’s thankfulness: that Addison is now officially off pureed/jarred baby foods. YAY! I really detest buying those tiny jars and feeding by the itty-bitty spoonful. Now she eats all table foods - specifically anything we are eating. More on that tomorrow.
Today’s thankfulness: that my husband has managed to make so many contacts and develop so many relationships over the last several years. Hopefully one of them will pay off in dividends sooner, rather than later.
January 16th, 2007 at 1:30 pm
Oh goodness. Despite the fear of bad comments, I’m so glad you posted this. THIS is exactly what blogging is for…. so that we can support you and encourage you. I’ll be thinking of you, praying for a job to drop in his lap.
January 16th, 2007 at 2:28 pm
*hug* And good about the table food. Are you grinding it? or just making due?
January 16th, 2007 at 2:52 pm
I swear the job search thing gets harder the higher up my husband goes in the computer world. Suddenly he’s “overqualified” for stuff… very frustrating. But your hubby has got so much going for him (including a really great book!! and good tv interviewing skills to boot - LOL) I bet he’ll find something great. It might not be in 30 days, but maybe the crunch will make things happen faster - work as a motivator of sorts or something? I bet in the long run you’ll see this as a big positive… the thing that finally got you out of Michigan!
(there, see, I can be positive for you!)
January 16th, 2007 at 3:52 pm
I know I said this already, but I’m so sorry!
love to you and the kiddos
January 16th, 2007 at 5:55 pm
I’m so sorry. I hope that things look up soon.
January 16th, 2007 at 8:39 pm
I’m so sorry. Hang in there!
January 17th, 2007 at 8:18 am
We went through a similar problem in the spring…right when we decided to start signing adoption papers. Timing is everything, huh. Hubby decided long before that he wanted a new job and had looked since Christmas with nothing in sight. All of a sudden his new job popped up (about a month after he was told he had 30 days to find a new job) and it has been as close to a perfect fit as one could pray for.
Keep your hope’s up as it does happen!
January 17th, 2007 at 9:32 am
Hang in there hon. I’m sorry he’s benched. It sucks! Hopefully this will turn into something really great and Tony will find his dream job. Great things can emerge from hardships, even if it seems impossible at the time.
Much love to you guys, we can’t wait until you’re here!!!
January 17th, 2007 at 10:01 am
Ugh how did I miss this post? Grrr..
Anyway I have said it a thousand times…I am sooooo sorry! I am so PO’d that there is nothing I can. I feel powerless and we all know how I despise that
Please accept thoughts and know that I would be throwing help your way if I knew what to do 
I love you!
January 17th, 2007 at 1:42 pm
sending big hugs of support and love to you, my friend. When R and I first moved to Michigan, we went through a very tough period where he could not find a job, despite his high qualifications and experience. Just when we were about to consider relocating again (we have our own business, but he wanted something with health benefits etc so we could move forward with our adoption plans) the perfect job came up and, after several interviews and months of training,he is now very happy to do what he is doing. Still, those six months were very rough for him (and for me too). Hang in there, and dont’ give up hope!
January 17th, 2007 at 5:50 pm
((HUGS))
Sending cyber prayers your way that this whole mess will work out for the best. A cyber friend once told me that a closed door means an open window… may it be true for you guys!