Comments on: The Attachment Journey http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/ Adventures in Life, Love and Laundry Sat, 05 Jul 2008 17:27:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Jen http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-10169 Jen Tue, 13 May 2008 17:13:21 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-10169 Wonderful, post Nicki. It reinforced many of the things I remind myself of daily. I liked what you mentioned about regression too. How true that regression can help strengthen the bonds of attachment. Wonderful, post Nicki. It reinforced many of the things I remind myself of daily. I liked what you mentioned about regression too. How true that regression can help strengthen the bonds of attachment.

]]> By: rachel http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9958 rachel Sat, 10 May 2008 00:11:26 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9958 Great stuff. I completely agree that attachment is a loooong journey, and during the journey change is constant...for better or worse. I cringe when I read people's blogs and they happily announce how attached their child is after just a few days or weeks (or even hours! eek!). I do whole-heartedly believe that bonding and attachment can START that quickly for some folks, but it certainly takes a lot to really start weaving the parent-child bonds. I think a lot of people confuse quick adjustment with quick attachment. Many kids don't scream in horror upon seeing their new parents, but that certainly doesn't mean they instantly love and trust them either. Great stuff. I completely agree that attachment is a loooong journey, and during the journey change is constant…for better or worse. I cringe when I read people’s blogs and they happily announce how attached their child is after just a few days or weeks (or even hours! eek!). I do whole-heartedly believe that bonding and attachment can START that quickly for some folks, but it certainly takes a lot to really start weaving the parent-child bonds. I think a lot of people confuse quick adjustment with quick attachment. Many kids don’t scream in horror upon seeing their new parents, but that certainly doesn’t mean they instantly love and trust them either.

]]> By: Jane http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9896 Jane Thu, 08 May 2008 18:51:23 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9896 Great post, I love reading your insights. Great post, I love reading your insights.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9892 Shannon Thu, 08 May 2008 17:39:57 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9892 I agree, you are a wonderful mom! Thank you for sharing your experiences so far with Addison! I agree, you are a wonderful mom! Thank you for sharing your experiences so far with Addison!

]]> By: Christina http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9851 Christina Wed, 07 May 2008 23:25:18 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9851 Great, great post. And good encouragement for me, as I realized just yesterday that we are not yet "there" with Zeeb... and then I read your post and realize maybe there is no "there" exactly... just a continual process, a journey, and each day we are one step closer to each other. (until the time when he needs to pull away! oh the irony of being a parent!) Thanks Nicki, for sharing your wisdom. You are a wonderful mom. Great, great post. And good encouragement for me, as I realized just yesterday that we are not yet “there” with Zeeb… and then I read your post and realize maybe there is no “there” exactly… just a continual process, a journey, and each day we are one step closer to each other. (until the time when he needs to pull away! oh the irony of being a parent!) Thanks Nicki, for sharing your wisdom. You are a wonderful mom.

]]> By: Kelli http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9831 Kelli Wed, 07 May 2008 15:47:47 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9831 Thanks for sharing your wonderful insight! It was very helpful. I am so grateful to have amazing women who have BTDT to help me learn about all things adoption. Posts like this are so much better than any book I read! Thanks for sharing your wonderful insight! It was very helpful. I am so grateful to have amazing women who have BTDT to help me learn about all things adoption. Posts like this are so much better than any book I read!

]]> By: Kelly http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9814 Kelly Wed, 07 May 2008 06:19:10 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9814 You amaze me Nicki! Thank you so much for sharing this. It is so easy to put your blinders on and pretend like everything is perfect, only to realize one day that something has gone totally astray. But the very best thing about adoptive parenting is the moment when you realize your blinders are gone, and what you are witnessing is real. Your child loves you and you love him/her more than anything in this world. You amaze me Nicki! Thank you so much for sharing this. It is so easy to put your blinders on and pretend like everything is perfect, only to realize one day that something has gone totally astray. But the very best thing about adoptive parenting is the moment when you realize your blinders are gone, and what you are witnessing is real. Your child loves you and you love him/her more than anything in this world.

]]> By: Razor Family Farms http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9808 Razor Family Farms Wed, 07 May 2008 04:23:55 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9808 I am so glad that I found this post. I hope you don't mind, but I printed it out and am taking it with us to the IMPACT class on Saturday. It is our first adoption class at Bethany Christian Services (I went through all of them while my husband was deployed and we lived in Washington State). You answered so many of my questions in this post and calmed my fears. Not only was your post well-written and a delight to read -- but it was honest and REAL. Bless you for being so willing to share about a topic which is rarely discussed in such a way. You are wonderful! Blessings! Lacy I am so glad that I found this post. I hope you don’t mind, but I printed it out and am taking it with us to the IMPACT class on Saturday. It is our first adoption class at Bethany Christian Services (I went through all of them while my husband was deployed and we lived in Washington State). You answered so many of my questions in this post and calmed my fears. Not only was your post well-written and a delight to read — but it was honest and REAL. Bless you for being so willing to share about a topic which is rarely discussed in such a way.

You are wonderful!

Blessings!
Lacy

]]> By: Stacy http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9802 Stacy Wed, 07 May 2008 01:51:16 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9802 What a great post on your journey with Addison. Thanks for sharing this. :) What a great post on your journey with Addison. Thanks for sharing this. :)

]]> By: Carissa http://www.steppingonlegos.com/2008/05/06/the-attachment-journey/#comment-9795 Carissa Tue, 06 May 2008 22:15:07 +0000 http://www.steppingonlegos.com/?p=678#comment-9795 What a wonderful journey of attachment that seems to be continuing :) Thanks for sharing! What a wonderful journey of attachment that seems to be continuing :) Thanks for sharing!

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