Password, revisted
I know waaay back last year I promised a switch to password protected posts. And I diligently gave out the password, the likes of which I no longer remember, and then never once offered up the secret posts.
Well I guess its an annual tradition because here we are again. Yesterday my husband attended a court hearing in which MY blog was brought up by the other party in a ridiculous and failed attempt to wrongly accuse my husband of things in order to extract more money out of our family. Because of the long dark stalker-like history there, we knew that was coming and expected it. And in general, I have always written for the audience and unfortunately I’ve always known that that audience includes some people with really unhealthy attachments to my world and an almost consuming need to be a part of it at any cost and to use it against my family whenever possible. Talk about making a girl feel important!!! So it was expected and rejected. And also a reminder that my due diligence was not out of paranoia but out of a sad reality. The reality is that no matter what I write, it could ALWAYS be manipulated, contorted, misconstrued, misunderstood, miscommunicated or altered to fit an agenda. I’ve always known and accepted that reality. Bring it on.
I generally have no problem being public about my life because I have nothing to hide despite the past and present attempts to distort my boring life as something far more exciting than it is. I have found that far FAR more good comes of being open than not. I have been lucky that I don’t really have a following of public crazies but in a way, at least the public crazies keep the private ones in check! But there have always been things I wish I could share and talk about that I can’t because I know that my blog is audited by stalkers, unknowns and also by my children.
Mostly I have no desire to password protect my blog. I think its tiresome and hard to remember everyone’s passwords. But I’m going to do it anyway, at least occasionally. Because boy have I got some stories for you!!!!!!!!
So if you have a blog or email relationship with me, drop me a line here and I’ll share the new and improved password. Let’s give this a whirl. For the rest of you, don’t worry, I won’t stop publicly blogging. The crazies will remain crazies, the stalkers will continue to find a way into my family by any means necessary. But hey, maybe somewhere along the way they will learn a thing or two about adoption, homeschooling, parenting or making dolly diapers! ha.
June 11th, 2008 at 11:58 am
Well, that is just unfortunate! Sorry to hear your husband was wrongly accused of things.
June 11th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
YIKES! I just found your blog recently and I have been enjoying reading it - especially the adoption stuff - we are currently on the researching all we can - I ‘m in the beginning stages of interest (obsession!) in adoption and hope to adopt one day so I am seeking out adoption blogs wherever I can.
I’m happy to hear that you will continue public blogging and sad to hear there is a need for some posts to be made private…tho it’s important to protect your family first at all cost.
Leanne
June 11th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
OMGosh, sorry to hear that that is happening to you. The world is full of odd folks huh?
June 11th, 2008 at 1:21 pm
There is never a shortage of crazy people. Seriously. I wonder where they call come from. I hope you are all doing well. I sent you an email.
June 11th, 2008 at 3:51 pm
If the psycho is reading this, leave my friend Nicki, AND her family, alone or I will jump out of that computer and open a can of whoop ass on you!!
Nicki - about the password…you know I want in!! I’m sure these are some juicy stories you’ve got to share!!
June 11th, 2008 at 3:53 pm
I’ve been toying with the idea of blogging for a long time and have always debated whether to go to the effort of trying to remain anonymous or not. It seems like a lot of effort to think up fake monikers for everyone, and find ways to remain anonymous while still posting pictures. I’ve said to myself many times, Stepping On Legos blogs so openly and doesn’t seem to have any problems, clearly I was wrong about that. And when/if I do start a blog I guess I’ll try to remain anonymous and use password protected posts also.
Sorry about the crazies and looking forward to your public posts.
June 11th, 2008 at 5:45 pm
Oh man, I’m sorry to hear what you have had to go through. I’ve long struggled to find the right level of openess with my blog. Occasionally I find myself wishing I had just stayed anonymous, but I enjoy being able to write without a lot of constraint and proof reading, ya know? Anyway, I would love to have the password, if you are so inclined. (read: give it now!!!
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June 11th, 2008 at 7:26 pm
I love your website! I found it while researching adoption, and I have found it fun to read, and educational. I hate that there are people out there that would ruin good things for everyone.
Keep up the good work!
June 11th, 2008 at 8:45 pm
Nicki,
How horrible a situation for you to be in. What a lot of crazy people we have in this world. I often read your blog and really enjoy and appreciate you approach to parenting. I don’t have a blog due to lack of time with a full time job and 3 kids and a dog (and am a single parent). I would love your password so that I can continue along. I really enjoyed your “game” about where you went on your trip and I was able to figure out where you were.
Thanks,
Ginger Stolzenthaler
gstolzenthaler@rcn.com
June 12th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
Hey. Just getting back to my parents. Will you send me the password. I am kind of mad at you for not just doing that anyway!!!!!
June 12th, 2008 at 12:14 pm
Me too?!?! I’d love the password.
I’m sorry someone is messin’ with you…life MUST be soooo boring for them that they have to try to bring someone else down. What a loser.
June 12th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
I think about password protecting my blog sometimes. Not because it’s so popular or anything, but because I worry about some sicko looking for pictures of little asian girls/boys and running across my site. Although I hate password protected sites (I can’t remember the passwords either, they all run together) I can see why you had to do it. I hate to even think about who is out there looking at all of our sites….
June 12th, 2008 at 6:01 pm
Jeez, I won’t say what I’m thinking cos I’ll probably spill too much but you know what I’m thinking and who I’m thinking nasty thoughts about. grrr….
June 12th, 2008 at 8:16 pm
Nicki, I don’t blog but I am a long-time, regular reader and you & I have emailed a number of times. I’d love to read the protected posts if I can - esp if they will be on adoption topics. Thanks, e.
June 13th, 2008 at 6:52 am
Hey! I just spent a few minutes searching for the old Password. LOL! I drop in occasionally and if you would like for me to have it, I’d like the password. I do love watching your kids grow even if I don’t post replies often.
Kim K
June 13th, 2008 at 2:12 pm
what the heck?
I drop out of blogging world for a week(ok, a little longer..) and the WHOLE WORLD IS UPSIDE DOWN….
just jokin….
um, password please?
June 16th, 2008 at 10:22 pm
Ok I will say it again, I would love to be able to read but it really is ok if you do not feel like sharing!